Talking with Someone

For a very long time, my cure for any negative emotion, any days i felt very low, was ALIENATING myself. I locked my bedroom door, turned off the lights, and hid under the blanket. I thought by doing nothing and sleeping on it, I was helping myself. But I realised something painful, “isolating myself was never make me feel better”. In fact, being alone with my thoughts will usually make me feel 10 time worst than it was.

The Turning Point

About two years ago, i started changing my approach. I tried to talk to my closest people, sharing my sadness. Sometimes i talk to my boyfriend, my best friend, my sister, and sometimes to a therapist. There was one day, i felt so negative, i was ruminating on personal issues. The issue that I cannot share with my closest one. Then i surf the internet, i looked for a taror reader. She was not able to give me a solution, but she was able to make me feel better instantly. I felt this was helping me way faster ever. By letting the words out i feel relief.

What actually happened when we talk to someone?

Three things happened: (1). You are able to label the emotion, you moved from a state of confusion to clearer thinking. (2). Talking with someone gives you a co-regulation feeling. You felt that there is people who believe and support you. (3). You will gain perspective, you will be able to get a different lens on your problem. Other people may be able to give you a practical solution.

If there is a faster way to feel better by simply reaching out to a friend or professional, why choose the hard way? If you are struggling right now, don’t wait for it to go away by isolating yourself. Reach out to your friend. Send that text or book that session!

IF HEALING CAN BE EASY, WHY MAKE IT HARD?